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Leadership: The Basics

Dear Son, Leadership is a topic I write about, teach about, and train others in extensively.  It is a topic that is often very poorly understood.  A lot of people mistake commanding, directing, or managing people for leading them.  The fact of the matter is that leadership can happen in all of those contexts, but […]

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Headaches and Self-Care

Dear Son, Yesterday I was down with a migraine most of the day.  I get them from time to time, and I know that there is a genetic component to them, as Oma gets them, and so do her sisters.  It is possible that when you get into your early twenties that you will be […]

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What Boys Want

Dear Son, In my last letter I talked about what Girls find attractive in Men, which for a guy who works with married couples as much as I did was not much of a challenge.  But if nothing else, I want these letters to embrace the love I feel as a father to his son.  […]

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What Girls Want

Dear Son, When I was a teen, I was constantly trying to figure out what it was girls want.  Growing up in the 1980s and 90s, there was more bad advice than good on that front.  Often, I could see through the bad advice, but I wanted it to be true, because it meant I […]

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If You are Going to Marry, Marry Young

Dear Son, I’ve spent much of the last six years of my life working with married men and couples who are looking to build a better life together.  It has been an opportunity to see the best and the worst in relationships.  I want to make absolutely sure that this blog gives you good relationship […]

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Value Your Friendships

Dear Son, As a corollary to my article on the value an purpose of money, I want to say that there is nothing in the world more important, more precious, and more rewarding in your life than good friends. People have all kinds of relationships with their family.  I hope ours is a good one, […]

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Dear Son, One of the most valuable practices you can learn is the practice of gratitude.  Gratitude is not just expressions:  it is not just saying “thank you” or “I appreciate it.”, it is a state of mind.  Very little is guaranteed in this life – not your health, not wealth, not companionship.  They are […]