"Dad and Son Walking" by Olichel

The Paradox of a Loving Father

Dear Son, Today I got in a big power struggle with O. over leaving the park in a timely fashion. We were throwing a foam chuck glider around for over an hour, and mostly having fun. But when it came time to go home, I was met with dozens of diversions, excuses, unreasonable requests, and, […]

A Lot More to Write

Dear Sons, Today I changed the name of this weblog to “Letters to my Sons.” It has been nearly three years since I updated this text, and a lot has happened. I have been the work-at-home dad and caregiver, to my son, O., who is growing into quite a fine young man. And now I have […]

Newborn feet

Dear Son, You were born today at 8:20pm on a cold and rainy October evening.  Most everyone around us was paying attention to a federal election here in Canada.  For us, and for your Grammie and Grampa, the only thing in the world of importance was you.  Our beautiful and brand new baby boy. You […]

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Trade-Offs

Dear Son, Life is a balancing act.  However much some ideologues might promise it to us, we cannot have everything we want.  When we choose one path, another path is lost to us.  This is why it is important to have good critical thinking skills, strong values, good character, and a powerful code of ethics.  […]

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Pets

Dear Son, Your mother and I both love cats.  At the moment we have two of them, who will be as much your pets as ours when you are little, Comet and Isis.  They are loving, playful cats with not a mean bone in either of their bodies, although Comet makes up for the lack […]

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Waiting Can be Hard

Dear Son, So, the “sweep” procedure didn’t get you to come early.  We find ourselves, that is Me, your mother, your Grammie and your Grampa, waiting to see when you’ll choose to arrive with baited breath. I had a long talk, mostly along the same lines as what many of these letters contain with your […]

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Faith

Dear Son, No human being can know the future.  We can’t control the thoughts, feelings, or actions of other people.  Even if we could, we would have no right to do so. And that means that we have to have some faith when we make decisions. Faith is a funny word, it has a few […]

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Up Early

Dear Son, So today might well be the day! I’m up early this morning for a business call to Sweden that didn’t actually happen, and imagining what life is going to be like after you’re born.  Very different, I suspect! Today, a lot of people are skipping parenthood.  They would rather keep chasing their own […]

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Virtue Signaling

Dear Son, One of the most obnoxious habits that people have today is a behaviour called “Virtue Signaling.” I want to be sure that you know it for what it is, so that you avoid doing it yourself, and are mindful of people who engage in it. Virtue Signaling is when someone makes either low-risk, […]

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First Impressions

Dear Son, There is a popular saying that I want to make sure is in your lexicon: “You never get a second chance to make a good first impression.” Right now this saying is not well-liked, but it is most definitely true. Human beings are forever judging each other.  We have to.  It is critical […]