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Faith

Dear Son, No human being can know the future.  We can’t control the thoughts, feelings, or actions of other people.  Even if we could, we would have no right to do so. And that means that we have to have some faith when we make decisions. Faith is a funny word, it has a few […]

planetary sunrise

Up Early

Dear Son, So today might well be the day! I’m up early this morning for a business call to Sweden that didn’t actually happen, and imagining what life is going to be like after you’re born.  Very different, I suspect! Today, a lot of people are skipping parenthood.  They would rather keep chasing their own […]

Hard Work

Burdens

Dear Son, One of the things I see holding men back over and over again is a fear of being a burden.  They don’t share their thoughts or feelings, their creative works, or even their hopes because they are afraid of being a burden on others.  This can cause a lot of pain for a […]

Superhero

Don’t Wait on Heroes

Dear Son, I will tell you a lot of tales of great heroes, mythical, and real.  A good hero story inspires us to be braver people.  It tells us what we could be capable of, and not just how to be a good person, but how to be a beautiful one: to be compassionate and […]

Laughing Boy

Feelings

Dear Son, I have a pretty unusual take on feelings.  One that is at the core of my work.  And it is one I sure hope that I can teach you, because it has made my life a lot better for holding it. Feelings are fleeting:  They start involuntary – we all feel angry, sad, […]

Norman Mailer

A Quote

Dear Son, Some days a short quotation for a wise man can be a far better message than a long letter.  This is one I want to make sure you know well: -Dad

Bride and Groom Dancing

Husband Goggles

Dear Son, Every good husband or serious boyfriend takes pride in the wisdom, character, beauty, and achievements of his lover:  he wants her (or him) to be Happy, after all.  Sometimes we wear what many men in the Game community call “husband goggles” – we see our lovers as smarter, more beautiful, and more talented […]