forest path


Dear Son, Life is a balancing act.  However much some ideologues might promise it to us, we cannot have everything we want.  When we choose one path, another path is lost to us.  This is why it is important to have good critical thinking skills, strong values, good character, and a powerful code of ethics.  […]

Shocked Girl

“That’s Offensive!”

Dear Son, Today the battle-cry of many dangerous and hateful people is “That’s offensive!”  They have succeeded in fooling the whole world into believing that words can do actual harm, especially to people who belong to certain groups.  It is nonsense and idiocy at its absolute highest level.  Words might hurt feelings, but they only […]

Quad at Oxford University, England

More on Postsecondary Education

Dear Son, In a recent letter I talked a bit about Universities and College, and making sure that your education suited the life you had decided to make for yourself.  There are other things that concern me about them that are just as worrisome as whether or not the degree itself is valuable. In the […]


Higher Education

Dear Son, I have no idea what to tell you about getting a good education, Son.  I am not sure anyone has a very good picture of what’s really going on.  When I was a teenager, there was a big push for as many people as possible to get a college or University education.  Guidance […]

difference between a boss and a leader

Leadership: The Basics

Dear Son, Leadership is a topic I write about, teach about, and train others in extensively.  It is a topic that is often very poorly understood.  A lot of people mistake commanding, directing, or managing people for leading them.  The fact of the matter is that leadership can happen in all of those contexts, but […]

Friends Shaking Hands Across a National Border

Every Relationship is a Work in Progress

Dear Son, Every relationship you have is always going to be a work in progress.  You build them up slowly over time with the interactions you have with the other person.  Each little thing you do that is kind, caring, decent, or fun with the other person – each thing that gives them a chance […]

Bundle of Chinese Coins

Remember What Money is For

Dear Son, People get so wound up and confused about money that it is easy to forget what it is and why it is important.  Young men in particular, can get hung up worrying about money, wanting money, or just trying to figure out what money is about that it becomes a point of obsession. […]

Sparring Grizzly Cubs


Dear Son, By the time you are old enough to read this letter, it will probably be absolutely no surprise to you to hear that one of my favourite things in the world is to  roughhouse with laughing children.  Wrestling, tickling, pillow fights, foam-sword duels, water-gun shootouts.  I plan on filling your childhood with as […]